I would love to pretend that I don't care how many followers I have (313), or how many comments I get, or how many likes I have on
facebook (42), or what number I am on
top mommy blogs (28!! That's not even the front page!). But the truth is, I TOTALLY care. And I lost a follower this morning (#314). I don't know which follower, and I don't know why! Now I'm left to wonder if it's because I didn't wear lipgloss in my
vlog yesterday. Or maybe it's because I'm too old to be a "
mommy blogger". Maybe my pictures aren't as good as
Alaina's, or my stories aren't as good as
Tia's. Or maybe it's because my tutorials aren't as awesome as
Ashley's, or maybe my blog design isn't as cool as
Jess'. Is it because I'm not as cute as
Allie or my kids aren't as adorable as
Heidi's? Maybe I should I bring back the
POTD? Maybe I should have more
giveaways? Maybe I'm too offensive? Maybe I'm not offensive enough?
Whatever. I'm gonna lose a follower here and there. For whatever reason. Maybe it doesn't matter. I toyed with the idea of turning off comments, because then I wouldn't be able to care how many I got. But, I couldn't do it. So I'm sticking around, and I'm gonna keep posting. And I'm going to keep pretending to not care about silly little numbers.
So sorry. I know what you mean though. I try not to care but I do!
ReplyDeleteDon't worry about numbers! (If it's any consolation I only have 13 followers! LOL!)
ReplyDeleteFor every one you lose, you may gain 2 or 3 more! :-)
I just realized that I follow on my blog (you're on my list), but I'm not actually following you on your page. So, it looks like you just gained another and now back up to 314! Don't sweat the small things, girlie. I know it's difficult sometimes. The ones who stick around love what you say and do, regardless of what that may be. I hope your day gets brighter!
ReplyDeleteOkay, the 313 didn't budge. Rats!
ReplyDeleteOh I totally know how you feel! First thing is first, you are NOT to old to be a mommy blogger! Don't even think that! Okay, now onto what I was gonna say.
ReplyDeleteI have lost followers, too. Like - several in the last week even. But to be honest, it's okay with me. And the reason is because I actually unfollow people all of the time. I unfollow people that I just don't have things in common with. The blogging world can be related a lot to going to school. There are people that you mesh with, people that inspire you. And people that you just kinda don't have things in common with. Doesn't mean that they don't like you! To be honest, I would rather someone stop following me, than just kinda pass over my blog on their reader every day, ya know? I know it's hard, but try not to be offended. You have 313 wonderful followers (friends, rather!). You may lose a few here and there, but that's life, right?? No biggy. The loyal ones are here to stay, and those are the ones that count! :) :)
xoxo
I know how you feel to some degree. I barely get comments unless I'm linking up to bog-hop. then I have strange people following me which I have deleted. Hope you have a great day!!!
ReplyDeletewell I love you! in a non creepy uber supportive way!
ReplyDeleteumm I am at 31 followers, and i get excited if more than 10 people view my blog a day! :) But then I totally worry that people just follow and don't actually read.. LOL.
I try so hard NOT to care, but let's be honest...I care too. I don't ever address it, but it makes me a little sad when I see my number go down. It's like "what did I say?" But at the end of the day, I can't worry too much about it - I just have to be me. And now that I've read Mandy's book...I totally agree with her.
ReplyDeleteIt wasn't me!! I love you and your blog!! I hate it when I lose a Facebook friend...and I can't figure out who it is!!
ReplyDeleteI like your blog! Keep up the good work!
ReplyDeleteDitto everything that has been said. I also was inspired by your vlog because I am totally a hater when I see myself talking or "in action". I don't think I could do a vlog.Kudos to you for posting!
ReplyDeleteI just lost a follower a few days ago too so, hey, I am happy anyone wants to follow me. keep up the candid and good work!
I love your blog, your photography and your tutorials :) It's hard to see someone drop off, but trust me...it's them, not you! It's probably somoene who you didn't really have a connection with anyway. In a few days you'll have 320 followers and you won't miss that first 314 anymore!
ReplyDeleteI know what you mean - I feel like comments are like gold stars and the followers are people who want to sit beside you at lunch... I am back in junior high - but it is nice sometimes.
ReplyDeleteI found your blog a while ago but had forgotten to come back until the other day. I LIKED you FB page yesterday and after reading your post, I am follower #314!
ReplyDeleteI rarely get comments, unless I link to a party so anyone I get is so fun but I try to think of my blog as a place for me, not for others. Maybe you can try to keep that in the back of your mind...who knows, it may help. But I feel ya!
Hope you have a great day!
All of this has been giving me a headache lately, Lady. I have seriously been thinking about shutting down production on my blog because it's all so ridiculous. I have no niche to fill at all; I am an old mommy blogger who uses the eff word, therefore a bad mommy blogger. I am a photographer who does no tutorials, therefore a bad photo blogger. I have no giveaways. Kind of useless. Who cares? You, on the other hand, have so much to offer, from fabulous photos to awesome giveaways to super tutorials that I hope you weather this storm and keep doing what you do! I heart you Rachel!
ReplyDeleteI think we ALL care. I do but I am like Mandy I unfollow people too. The people that I dont read or that I followed because they followed me at one point and I felt obalgated too follow. but in the last couple of weeks I made the choice to not care and be me all the way and what I found is that I gained more people because of that who actually care what I have to say. Comments dont mean anything because I know that I read peoples blogs and dont comment or I follow only people who I know I will want to come back too because we have something we can share together. Chin up buddy! we all love you.
ReplyDeletei went from 90 followers to 89 today...maybe we lost the same follower!!
ReplyDeleteI liked the vlog, short and sweet, and your boy is very funny and cute.
ReplyDeleteGiiiiiiiirl.
ReplyDelete:)
No worries. You are fabulous.
I got your back, TMB style.
Love, Sarie
http://mommyusedtobesopretty.blogspot.com
Whjo are we kidding? WE ALL care & it does sting a little when we lose someone. But.....tehn I remember all the cool mom blogging friends I've met & smile. =]
ReplyDeleteI love your blog. You shouldn't change anything about it! I don't even have enough followers to lose followers, but I still do.
ReplyDeleteI like to think that I am primarily bloggin for myself, but I know what you mean. I have a whopping 16 followers and sometimes think of how I can increase those numbers. I don't post everyday...maybe I should. I don't want to post just to post something. I want to be happy with what I post. I suppose being a perfectionist doesn't help much either! You keep doing what you're doing. Your awesome!
ReplyDeleteWOW, if you are too old to be a Mommy blogger then I am just screwed. Love your Mommy/photo blog goodness. Don't stop.
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