and then she snapped: that time I didn't go to blogher and I was ok with it

so I didn't go to blogher this year. (or last year, or the year before, you get the picture).

I really really like the IDEA of going to blogher, because, well, I'm a blogger. but...I'm a mommy blogger, and I blog because I love it, not because I'm making a living at it.

I've been reading posts about blogher for weeks now, written by bloggers gearing up to go, and then I read tweets about blogher while blogher sort of took OVER twitter for a couple of days there, and now all these blogher bloggers are back and posting about all the fun they had, and it's weird, because it does look like fun.

for them. but it's not for me. part of me wishes I had been there (I mean who doesn't want to be in the "in" crowd?), but the other part of me (the majority of me) is glad I wasn't there, because the idea of being at a conference with THOUSANDS of bloggers actually TERRIFIES me. especially the idea of being at a conference that I flew to BY MYSELF in a city I DON'T KNOW. it gives me the shakes just thinking about it.

some of you may be laughing right now because maybe you think I come across as being all outgoing and stuff. haha, fooled you! it's all an act. I am so far from that. I am a homebody. I prefer one on one conversation a million times over a big party, I always have.

so if YOU went to blogher, I'd love to hear about it. over a cup of coffee. just you and me.
and if you DIDN'T go to blogher, I'd love to hear about it. over a cup of coffee. just you and me.

23 comments:

thatgirlblogsAugust 8, 2011 at 10:11 PM
I almost go every year.

Almost.
KatBouskaAugust 8, 2011 at 10:15 PM
I remember being SO annoyed with Twitter when Blogher took over the last three years. It gets really old reading the exact same tweets over and over. I'm a homebody too, so I totally get it!
HeidiAugust 8, 2011 at 10:43 PM
Maybe you and me next year, Lady.
Olivia GraceAugust 9, 2011 at 2:04 AM
It sounds like a wonderful time but SO intimidating! Just imagining walking into a huge convention center, not really knowing anyone, AHH! But I guess that's half the fun?
NancyAugust 9, 2011 at 3:47 AM
I hear you loud and clear, Rachel. Besides, I don't think my farmer overalls would go over very well. Not that I care, of course! :)
TammyAugust 9, 2011 at 7:54 AM
Thank you for this. I felt like I was the only blogger in blog world who didn't go {and I was ok with it!}
LindseyAugust 9, 2011 at 8:21 AM
I haven't been yet either. Oklahoma is really far away from BlogHer and I just can't justify the cost a this point. I too blog because I love it. I would like to make a living at it, but I will be satisfied that I landed my current job on the merits of my blog.
MelanieAugust 9, 2011 at 10:55 AM
I'm so new to this whole thing, but I hear ya! I would rather be home w/ my fam, than out at a big party any day! But it is fun to have a little "me" time sometimes too!
melifaifAugust 9, 2011 at 10:59 AM
Soooo...tell me. What has been your favorite post written about BlogHer? Yeah? Me too. Nada. No offense, gals. It reminds me of college and the sorority vs. no sorority. So far I am in the no sorority group. And I am sooooo cool with that. Kudos lady.
CarolAugust 9, 2011 at 11:44 AM
Um, yeah. I'm lovin' comment No.9It does come across that way, unintentionally probably...

I totally get this...all of it!
HannahAugust 9, 2011 at 12:12 PM
I am so much the same way. Total homebody. Prefer one on one hang out time above all. I do feel a bit out of place at conventions/conferences. Crowds give me heebie jeebies and make me want to curl up in my bed with a pile of dvds and a chocolate bar.
RachelleAugust 9, 2011 at 12:37 PM
Is it sacrilegious to say "Amen" to that? I can't do the crowds. I feel like the wall flower, the fly on the wall, the intruder... I'd love to join you for that cup of java - that's more my style. Certainly, I'm jealous of the comradeship of attendants, but... well, you know
"GB"August 9, 2011 at 3:48 PM
I would be holding the walls up and be so terrified that I would forget my own name. While I would love to be famous in a way, I am perfectly content being a nobody.
Moments and ImpressionsAugust 9, 2011 at 4:22 PM
I love this... I am so shy and hate meeting new people. I would love to have coffee though - just me and you... and Heidi too.
Glamm GirrlAugust 9, 2011 at 6:25 PM
I always want to go but then I never do, I guess I'm a bit frightened but very curious at the same time. Maybe next year!! Happy blogging!!
Honey MommyAugust 9, 2011 at 8:05 PM
I don't go to blogger and I don't drink coffee either. Can I drink a diet coke instead?
StashaAugust 9, 2011 at 8:58 PM
I hear you and I do still owe you my home brewed latte. Soon!
AnonymousAugust 9, 2011 at 9:34 PM
I might be way off base here, but I've been wondering if it's the most socially awkward conference ever. I mean, these people pour time and energy into sitting in front of their computers all day! (Myself included.) So wouldn't that mean a lot of awkward silences when you have to have a conversation with a real person?
Sarah @ The Will to SeeAugust 9, 2011 at 9:56 PM
I think I want to go each year, but I am pretty shy, so I haven't yet. I want to try to go to one or two of the smaller conferences next year.
Karen @ Pieces of ContentmentAugust 10, 2011 at 12:45 AM
Seems like we have much in common Rachel.
Lil Muse LilyAugust 10, 2011 at 5:06 AM
Hi! Coming through FTLOB. I'm having a cup of coffee, I didn't go to bloggher either and I hear you. I also found the whole thing kind of obnoxious. lol
AmandaAugust 10, 2011 at 1:46 PM
I know exactly how you feel! I'm jealous of those who got to go, and my fantasy self (the outgoing, totally cool one) would have a really good time, but the reality me would be absolutely terrified and completely awkward if I ever actually made it there.
MichelleAugust 10, 2011 at 10:11 PM
I keep saying I'm going to go, but something always manages to put a wrench in things. There is always next year.

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